Last weekend was Adeleās last Vegas show. During her final residency performance, she chugged a glass of wine, stood in front of 5,000 fans and laid it all bare.
And she didnāt just reflect on 100 incredible performances; she shared how she almost didnāt get there.
When she canceled her show at the last minute last year, she faced a complete š© show of criticism, fear and doubt.
People told her it was ‘career suicide’ and yet, standing on that stage this weekend, she looked back and said, āIf something doesnāt feel right to you, donāt f***** do it.ā*
Saying ‘no’ when the world expects you to say ‘yes’ is hard.
Weāve all been there; when youāve worked so hard to meet expectations, saying no can feel like letting everyone (and yourself) down.
Sometimes, itās saying no to a project, a decision or even a role you thought you wanted.
But hereās the thing: saying no doesnāt always mean youāre turning away from something. It can mean youāre making space for something better š«
Itās about trusting your gut, even when you donāt have all the answers.
It reminded me of a time when an opportunity landed in my lap that was perfect on paper. It ticked all the right boxes and everyone told me to go for it. But deep down, I knew it wasn’t right for me and I walked away. It wasnāt easy and people thought I had totally lost the plot!
But that decision opened the door to what Iām doing now; work that I truly love šāāļø
To make things even trickier, sometimes we mix up the yeses and nos.
We say yes to things out of obligation or fear of letting people down. We say no to things because weāre scared or we donāt feel ready. The challenge is learning the difference.
Adeleās words reminded me that we donāt need all the answers. What we do need is to listen to that little voice inside us – the one that knows when something feels right.
So hereās your nudge for the week:
š³ Whatās one thing youāve said yes to but your gutās saying no?
š³ Whatās one thing youāve been hesitant to say yes to, even though you know itās right?
The second chances we often wait for arenāt given to us – theyāre created by the decisions we make and the risks weāre willing to take.
So, whatās holding you back? š¤Ø
Whatās stopping you from saying no to what isnāt working – or yes to what could change everything?
Trust your gut, rewrite the script and give yourself permission to go after what you really want ā¤ļø